People can only have power over you if you are seeking to have power over others.
When you realize that the defensive feeling you have is a response to your resistance, you are free in that moment.
Defensiveness and emotional tumult is often a fear response because of your need for acceptance and ruthless control of the territory of your safe fantasy world.
Most upset is a fear of rejection.
The earthquake of discomfort you feel moving inside of you when someone insults you is your own insecurity.
A great deal of defensiveness stems from the need to be right and frustration over not being able to control.
The best practice is to be around people who absolutely disagree. Grace in conflict is a study in love.
You can get to a place where you see clearly; that place is zero defensiveness.
The conflicts we have with the outside world are often conflicts we have within ourselves.
If you do not like a certain behavior in others, look within yourself to find the roots of what discomforts you.
