Forgiving takes your power back.
By holding-on to resentment you allow them to continue having power over you.
Through forgiveness, you can quit suffering from the sins committed against you.
Forgiving is an inward act that establishes outer boundaries; it is an undefeatable triumph of self-compassion that proclaims you are no longer a victim.
Forgiving another may be the ultimate act of self-love.
There is no self-love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without self-love.
It takes emotional bravery to forgive. It takes a huge determination toward self-care to let go of painful past events and not let them define your future.
It is easy to hold a grudge. It is easy to blame. But these narratives are a perpetuation of the role of a powerless victim. When you hold grudges the victimization continues.
Boundaries are an essential part of forgiveness.
Forgiving cuts the cord — freeing you — and leaves the abuser with the full weight of their deeds and fate, and whether they accept their responsibility or not, you are no longer dependent on their participation for your healing.
